Tuesday, October 13, 2009

A Family Affair


A saying something along the lines of quotes this: 'If you marry a person, you marry the family as well."

Would you agree?

Anyway, I polled my readers this past week on how long they usually wait until they would introduce their significant other to their parents.

10% voted when they start dating
50% voted within a few months
30% voted within half a year
10% voted never.

While there isn't one appropriate time to introduce your special one to the family, you should have the intention to do so eventually.

I know there's all this talk about how "love is enough"... to an extent, yes. But somehow, if they're not involved with your family in any way (and vice versa), a chance at longevity is slim to none.

2 comments:

  1. I definitely agree that meeting the family is a really important aspect of a relationship, but I don't feel like it matters WHEN it happens, so long as it does. Of course, I don't mean it's okay to introduce them RIGHT BEFORE your wedding day, but whether it's a month in, 6 months in, or even a year, so long as it happens-- it's okay. I definitely disagree with those who say "never", though.

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  2. Tricky topic, if it's too soon it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the relationship. Once the family's are in the loop, it's almost as if the relationship is on a new plateau. It establishes a level of seriousness which either partner may not be ready for. Likewise, if it happens too late, it's not a good thing either. The late introduction itself won't be the problem, it's the time prior to the introduction. If a partner waits too long, his or her other may be feeling uneasy regarding why it's taking so long. It may give off the impression that the eventual introduction to the family is being somewhat forced just because it's been so long.

    It's all about communication and comfort, the right time should present itself. However, sometimes, never is an appropriate option depending on the circumstance. Although family is a huge part of any relationship, the feelings of the two individuals should essentially be all that matters.

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