Taking Chances (Part 2)

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Alex made a comment referring to "the OC" ;)

So, as I was saying in Part 1, there is the rare case that a friendship-turned-relationship that could work out, however let's see SCENARIO B...

Boy and Girl are very good friends. They get along great, they hang out with the same group of friends, and hell, sometimes they're so comfortable around each other that they end up doing things one on one - like studying, shopping, etc. Boy begins to enjoy Girl's company so much that he begins to have thoughts of "what if" they went out. Girl is always on Boy's mind and Girl seems to be really nice. Girl's nice to everyone, she's fun, she's hyper, she can get along great with everyone. Boy thinks that there may be a possibility that Girl may feel the same way about Boy. Boy thinks of all the possibilities of the turn out of a possible confession - Girl feels the same way, or Girl doesn't ... and then their friendship will turn awkward. However, Boy decides to take a chance, because he really wanted to get it off his chest otherwise he'd still be wondering if she could feel the same way.

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The confession of Boy finally happened with the Girl. Unfortunately, Girl did not feel the same way and continually stressed that she treats everyone the same way - with the same amount of niceness and attention. Their friendship became awkward and Girl really wondered why Boy would do such a thing to change their friendship. Boy said he really wanted to get it off his chest and let it out into the open. Girl wants to continue being friends but does not know how to without feeling like Boy is expecting something in return; she feels as if he is doing everything to try to get her to like him back. Girl decides to pretend as if nothing happened, but Boy seems to be getting more needy ...

Needless to say, Girl decides that closure is needed despite her love for their friendship. She feels that maybe as time passes,

"out of sight, out of mind"

would do the trick.

Okay, what do you guys think? Do you think "getting it off your chest" is a good idea?

I personally think that things should happen naturally, things come and go. If Girl liked Boy back, it would show without Boy needing to confess expecting something in return.

So no, I don't think some chances should be taken.

Agree/disagree? Have you ever found yourself in this situation? What happened and how did you handle it?

Taking Chances (Part 1)

Disclaimer: This post is as per a conversation I had with a couple girlfriends recently.

While I am a firm believer in taking chances whenever you can in life so as to carpe diem, maybe there should be some exceptions.

Have you ever had a very good friend that you only regard as a good friend, have only considered them as a good friend, and would almost repulse you to think of them any more than a good friend? (Maybe repulse is too strong of a word, but let's just keep it there to get a point across).

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Now, I did post before that it is difficult to maintain a friendship with a (fe)male friend when relationships start to make way into your life, but what I am trying to get at is another very good reason why some friendships can't work out.

As written from a female's perspective, I suppose some women can be cockteases, if not a majority of them. Some do it intentionally, and some are too naive to realize what they're doing. Some guys could appear to be a player, with the very same reasons as mentioned.

However, let's say this friendship takes a chance ... here's a scenario to illustrate my point.

SCENARIO A:
Boy and Girl are very good friends. They get along great, they hang out with the same group of friends, and hell, sometimes they're so comfortable around each other that they end up doing things one on one - like studying, shopping, etc. Girl begins to enjoy Boy's company so much that she begins to have thoughts of "what if" they went out. Girl begins to think of Boy so much that she realizes that she has developed more-than-friendship feelings about Boy... BUT she doesn't want to "ruin the friendship" so she stays quiet. HOWEVER, one day while Girl and Boy were studying together, Girl decided to bring up the possibility of "what if" she had feelings for Boy. Luckily enough, Boy had also developed feelings for Girl and the both of them discussed their options of whether or not to continue the friendship or move onto a relationship.

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Now this would be an ideal situation and mind you, it COULD happen, but that isn't always the case.

Which brings us to...
My next post, later this week. :)

STAY TUNED for THE dreaded scenario as given by testimony!

Best (Fe)Male Friend

In preschool, I remember having male and female friends.

In elementary school, members of the opposite sex suddenly had cooties.

In middle school, hormones kicked in and suddenly girls were trying to get the attention from the guys and vice versa.

In high school, some of us grew up a bit more and maybe, possibly disguised some immense admiration for one another by deeming each other "best friends." I remember having "best" guy friends in high school and some of them remain "best" or good friends to this day.

But what does being a best friend entail? Best friends usually involve being completely honest with each other, with the deepest darkest secrets divulged, sometimes even spending most of the time together... some best friends were referred to being conjoined at the hip, completely inseparable.

I told someone in tenth grade that I had a best friend that was a guy and he told me I couldn't really be best friends with a guy if I didn't like him, whatever that meant. I was completely convinced that I didn't like him, and I still am. He told me that maybe now you can be best friends with a member of the opposite sex but later on, it can definitely not work out if you're married to someone else.

I didn't understand then, I do now.

The person you develop an intimate relationship with, the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with,

should be your best friend.

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"I'm lucky to be in love with my best friend."
Jason Mraz